Oudeterogenic Harm

When Neutrality Causes Harm

Explore a framework for understanding how well-meaning professionals in the family court ecosphere can inadvertently contribute to systemic harm in high-conflict custody disputes.

The Problem: Asymmetric Conflict

Not all conflicts are equal. Asymmetric conflicts are driven by one party’s goal of dominance and control, not mutual resolution. Understanding these patterns is the first step. Click each tab to learn more.

Coercive Control

This involves using manipulation, intimidation, and administrative aggression to dominate the other parent. It’s not about a single issue.

It’s a pattern of behavior designed to instill fear and compliance.

This can include filing frivolous motions, making baseless accusations, or using the children as leverage.

The Framework: Defining Oudeterogenic Harm

Oudeterogenic harm is the systemic damage caused when professional neutrality is applied to an asymmetric conflict, inadvertently empowering the destructive party.

Asymmetric Conflict

One party seeks control, the other seeks resolution.

Siloed Neutrality

Well-meaning professionals treat both parties equally, missing the power imbalance.

Oudeterogenic Harm

A systemic failure where the “solution” inadvertently reinforces the problem, causing harm to the family it’s meant to protect.